Maybe just a little common sense is missing?

It appears that the culture we live in today is inundated with individuals who seem to have the answer to everything we do from how to breathe correctly to how to die.  Human beings have been searching for answers since the beginning of time. But, the questions used to be more profound. Why am I here and what is my purpose?

  Over the years those questions have somehow become part of the back drop for a plethora of individuals who offer answers to an incredible host of mediocre concepts. Books and blogs that encompass subjects that heretofore simply needed a good dose of self-reflection have become common place. If you want to be happy, and who doesn’t, you can find at least a thousand books on the subject. The problem is that you simply can’t be happy all the time. We do need the contrast of other emotions. Sick of individuals that are hard to get along with? Just look up “toxic people” and you’ll find tons of material on how to get rid of them. It could be everyone you know or it just might be that you’re the toxic one! Now that revelation might help the rest of us.

 Can’t lose weight? Well we’re all aware of how many tomes have been written on that subject. Isn’t it interesting that the amount of diet books written have still not reduced obesity in America? We should all look like sticks. Relationships are a hot topic! How to find the right partner, how to train your partner to listen to you, and how to get rid of your partner seem to be quite popular. Want to be successful and be financially solvent? Well you can always find ten ways, thirty steps, fifteen things to avoid, and voila your life becomes easy and your bank account full.

   Loving yourself is a very hot topic. If you can get to the place where you’re totally in love with yourself, you could actually date yourself and not have to read the book on finding a soul mate. I guess I need lots of help in this area. I don’t always love or like myself. It depends on the barometric pressure, whether I’ve slept well, or if my arthritis is in check.

   What’s really missing is common sense. Only that’s too boring! Imagine if we all thought about what we’re doing and how it affected us and those around us? What would happen? We might actually be happier, lose weight, hang with decent people, find a like-minded partner and just maybe, we’d like ourselves a little better.

Reading A Book Is The Perfect Cure For Boredom

It’s difficult to think of a person who doesn’t have the desire to learn – whether the subject is history, sports, politics, cooking or just plain trivia.

Research suggests that individuals who are avid learners are likely to be more physically and mentally healthy than their less-engaged peers. There has been incredible validation by science in this area. What we learn and how we do it will greatly influence our future.

I can still see my grandfather at 86 sitting at the kitchen table with his espresso, Italian newspaper and stacks of books.
And my mother never stopped flaunting her latest finding about the stock market or something interesting she’d heard on the Larry King TV show. Every time we chatted, she would challenge me to see if I knew what she knew. I felt compelled to keep up with her.

I try to do the same thing with my children and grandchildren because I want them to stay on top of things, not be pushed under by them.

The grandkids know I won’t put up with the common kid complaint: “I’m bored.” I knew never to say that because I’d always get the same response: either “go read a book” or “I’ll give you something to do.” The latter meant manual labor. My mother could always find something for me to do that was not particularly exciting, such as cleaning the bathroom. Reading a book became my savior.

Having a brain that can function into our later years takes effort. Yes, some of our genetic coding and circumstances out of our control mean something. But every day we can make a point of increasing our learning capacity. Even simple acts like becoming more observant or listening more carefully instead of thinking of what you’re going to say next can be great educational experiences.

Meanwhile, I’ll leave you with a great quote from Eartha Kitt: “I am learning all the time. The tombstone will be my diploma.”

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