Sexing it up and dumbing it down! How far will talent go to sell it?

  “Rihanna is channeling her inner stripper in videos and on Instagram, Britney Spears is whipping women on leashes. Nicki Minaj is braless and spilling out of her revealing jacket on the Ellen DeGeneres show”.  USA Today, Friday the 26. So begins an article with the headline Selling Sex, Has showbiz gone too far? The aforementioned article was laden with opinions by a myriad of individuals in the media and psychology. The article ended with a statement by Kenny “Babyface” Edmonds, who said “you think this is bad, wait till 10 years from now”. Now I never heard of “Babyface”, but that doesn’t mean anything , because I am not familiar with a lot of today’s pop icons. I have seen the women that were mentioned in the article since I do try to keep up with the culture  to a certain degree simply because of what I do for a living which is write and talk about stress management.

    If selling records and movies is becoming more and more predicated on wearing less and less clothing, will the need to wear anything at all be the norm in ten years? Perhaps when everyone appears naked we will reach saturation levels with nudity. I frankly have already become tired of what is fast becoming a global strip club of vocalists. It does not include all singers and movie stars. Adele seems to have won several Grammies while singing totally dressed. And I know there are others. Imagine just using your voice to lure people into buying your records instead of your body parts?

    Since exposing more and more flesh seems to sell,  why aren’t other marketers jumping on board? How about Burger King or McDonald’s featuring one of their employees eating a burger  in a thong while doing the bumps and grinds ? How about Apple doing a commercial with the Chippendale using a smart phone to cover their privates while they dance around an Apple Store?  Sounds ludicrous but it could come to that.

    Believe me I am not a prude! But leaving something to the imagination is certainly a little bit more interesting? Where’s the mystique? Are these artists survival aligned with how far they can push the envelope? Does talent mean anything? But perhaps the most important issue is that young women are getting the message that sexuality is a commodity. Being sexy is fun, but when boobs start to take precedent over brains we are not only losing our perspective but we are also accepting the dumbing down of talent!

Be Yourself, Everyone else is taken

When I was younger, I spent a considerable amount of time and energy on what I thought was the noble pursuit … of making myself taller. Yes, I knew all the tricks. I’d spend hours in the beauty parlor having my hair done in a style that was assured to help me look tall — unfortunately, I ended up looking like a pregnant bumblebee.I’d wear shoes with heels so high that I teetered on them precariously. I discovered certain designers whose clothes were carefully crafted with sleek lines to make even bowling balls look slim and lanky. So I’d buy these extra-long pants, which were supposed to make my legs look longer — but all they did was make me trip a lot.I walked around with constant foot trauma; spent hundreds of extra dollars on my clothes and hair and devoted countless hours of my time to shopping, primping, and fussing; and, of course, I used up enormous amounts of my psychic energy and attention in the pursuit of this illusion.Guess what? I’m still short!Of course, I’m also talking about being a very young woman who was trying to fit in, and who, often struggled with not enjoying being who she was. When I finally gave up trying to impress other people with the illusion of height, my life improved enormously. I no longer walked around in pain, I wore whatever clothes I liked, and I stopped trying to make my hair look voluminous.Acceptance of what is can be wonderfully liberating, but it can also create a great deal of inner peace and harmony. This is an incredibly difficult concept for a society that is constantly assaulting us with messages that most of us need some kind of a “makeover.” Not a day goes by without some ad telling us that we should be thinner, more successful, find our soul mate, be happier or live longer. These messages make it increasingly more difficult to simple “BE.”I love to consider ways of improving myself, but there comes a point where we have to realize that we simply can’t improve everything about our lives. In fact some of how we look and act make us uniquely different from one another. Those who really care about you will enjoy who you are, as you are, unless your behavior is harming you or others. I love the following quote by Oscar Wilde: “Be yourself, everyone else is taken!”