Have the last word…Become your most authentic self and find your own voice!

How often have you sat down for a few minutes to chill out, when you start hearing those nagging inner voices asking, “Why are you resting, you know you don’t have time for this!” Get up. Don’t just sit there. You have lots to do. Keep going!” I often wonder when we first start accumulating those critics that are always so ready to make us feel that we just haven’t made the grade yet. I know a lot of it starts when we’re young kids. If you watch toddlers you can see they’re not affected yet by those critics. They’re usually running around, going from one thing to another, yelling when they feel like it, giggling, stopping in awe at a bug crawling along the floor that we would probably kill instantly. We are so over being dazzled by a bug. We’re on to Smart Phones and how exciting it is to have them be able to remind us of what we need to do. Kids are so wrapped up in their delightful, adventurous activities, and so totally involved, that it’s no wonder the universal mantra for parents is “Please look at me, I’m talking to you!” We hope that if they look at us, it will break the spell. I realize that all of us need some discipline in our lives and certainly we should become responsible and accountable. Unfortunately some of us have been overburdened with messages that taught us to always be vigilant as to what we need to do. Somewhere along the way we have forgotten how to enjoy life along with being responsible. We have become one with our “to do list”. It has taken me years to allow myself not to be at the mercy of my mothers’ voice. Many of her messages made sense, but her constant need to make sure that tasks had to be completed before you could have fun became one I carried around for years. I remember making sure my room was neat even though I could barely get out of bed due to a high fever and the flu. “What if someone came over with some chicken soup and they saw my bedroom in disarray”? After all there is a bedroom police isn’t there? I finally realized that it doesn’t matter. What’s really important is to realize that the internal critics you’ve inherited can be dismissed. To become your most authentic self you have to find your own voice. In the end you really have the last word.

About lorettalaroche

An international stress management and humor consultant whose wit, and irreverent humor, has, for over 30 years raised the humor potential in all of us. She is on the Mass General advisory council for anxiety and depression and was recently awarded the National Humor Treasure Award. Loretta writes a weekly newspaper column called, ‘Get a Life’.

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2 Responses to Have the last word…Become your most authentic self and find your own voice!

  1. yaisage says:

    I finally figured out that “mother in my head” was her “pain body”, which Eckhart Tolle describes in The New Earth. So I didn’t have to worry about respect or not hurting her. Mother is long gone. This thing is just an obnoxious ghost looking for another host and I was next in line. I can tell it to shut up or say to it, “Ghost begone!” And it goes.

    I saw a mother walking through the park with her toddler. He noticed there were bugs in the grass and squatted down to watch them, fascinated. Mother shouted, “Come ON!” and yanked him up by one arm. The destruction of a future scientist?

    Oh, by the way, you are the funniest lady on this planet!

    • Susan says:

      Yalsage said: “Oh, by the way, you are the funniest lady on this planet!”
      yeah, she is great huh?
      Loretta, who do you look to when you need a laugh?

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