In the last several years there has been a plethora of information discussing the differences in how men and women differ. The field of neuroscience has corroborated what most of us already know intuitively. I have had several relationships and can testify to the fact that there are major gender differences. I’m sure when men and women hang out in their separate groups they often point out behaviors that have become the foundation for a lot of sitcoms. When I was younger and uniformed about how differently we see the world, I would often find myself getting crazed and humorless. I can’t say I’m completely cured, but I do find myself laughing more often at both genders behaviors. Here’s some examples of situations I have learned to laugh at. A man will open the refrigerator door and swear up and down that he can’t find whatever he’s looking for, but he has no trouble finding his favorite sports show on the tube. Women will discuss a topic over and over and add every subtle nuance as if they were trying to create an academy award winning film. Men simply look bewildered and wonder “why can’t she simply get to the point”? We will get in the car and immediately think of where we might stop to wander around some shops, or make sure we know where the nearest restroom is. Men seem to resemble camels when it comes to their bathroom habits, until they get older. Our goal is to gather information, no matter where we are so we can share it with our women friends and bring home some little treasure to remind us of our journey. Our partners can never figure out why we need what we’ve purchased, because their sojourns to stores comes from a more practical place. If they go to a hardware store for a hammer they don’t call their friends to go with them so they can try it out before they buy it, or come back with more than they set out to buy. They also don’t get overly concerned over making beds, making sure the house is clean when companies coming over, or putting toilet seats down. Of course not every man or female fits into the above categories, but I can bet that a great majority do. What we all need to discover is that what annoys us about each other can become a great way to connect, if we can both admit that we are often a joke.
Life is Not A Stress Rehearsal
I am writing not so much in response to this blog but in response to the fact that there is a blog. I live In Toronto and was in the audience this summer when you, Loretta, were here and hysterical for the Power of Women conference. My friend and I enjoyed you so much that we corraled ten friends to buy tickets to tomorrow’s performance with Jessica Holmes. Today we received an email informing us that you can’t be with us tomorrow. They are just as disappointed as we are (unlikely) and will be “rescheduling”. They intimated that you couldn’t be in Toronto due to health issues and yet here you are blogging about the differences between men and women today. The whole situation appears extremely shady, particularly since no one has volunteered to refund our money. They offered us another conference instead, but we all bought tickets to see you. When one is looking forward to roasted turkey, twice one’s money’s worth of Spam won’t do. I would like to know what is really happening. I am not requesting you to disclose personal details — I hope you are well or at least on the mend — I would simply like to know whether or not you intend to honour your appearance with Jessica in Toronto and if not, why not.
You’ll be happy to note that some of my posse and I have decided to view this disappointment as an opportunity to get together anyway, make each other laugh and say “whoopee”. I look forward to your response.
Robin Stone
Hi Robin,
Please forgive the delay on responding to this very important comment….For some reason this wordpress comment was in my spam.
It is very important that you understand that I was indeed not sick. I am extremely healthy and vibrant!
I was packed and ready to come to the event. As were you, I was informed on that very date that the event had to be re-scheduled for unforeseen reasons. I am so sorry that I could not have been there. I was looking forward to coming and performing for all of you. I am unclear to why everyone is being told that I was sick. This is not the case. I am so happy that you made a DISAPPOINTING SITUATION into a fun time with your girlfriends. Good for you! Laugh and the world laughs with you. Hope to see you in Toronto sometime soon.
All My Love, Loretta LaRoche.
I think my OH is one of the few men who are concerned about how the house looks when we have company calling, however his version of tidying and mine differ, I will move things to clean, dust, hoover and put them away or throw them out while he will just put everything that is lying around into neatly stacked piles and then clean around them. I am learning to see the humour in this and am grateful that at least he tries.